Casual conversations, how they bore me.
--Supertramp, Lyrics, Breakfast in America
To be nobody-but-yourself -- in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else -- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.
--e. e. cummings
Let me stand next to your fire!
I want to say congratulations to Caitlyn Jenner for being true to herself. Well met!
I thought I'd take this national moment of identity conversations to talk about my own identity, my name Mybrid. Mybrid is a name I designed, I engineered. Mybrid is me. I am the only Mybrid to be, my ego is free.
I've changed my name twice: in 1984 to Mybrid Trees and then again in 2014 to Wonderful. I would not say I'm struggling to be myself. I have either perfect self-esteem, no self-esteem, or just self-esteem, depending on how one looks at these things. People's opinions of my identity are of no import to me. My actions? Yes. My character? Not ever. I like pop culture and the symphony with no cognitive dissonance in between.
I changed my named to Mybrid Trees Wonderful for both personal and social reasons.
On the personal side I had just read the book Neuromancy by Gibson. Gibson rightly predicted the advent of the world-wide-web in 1984. He then goes on to predict that unique words and unique names will become a highly sought after commodity for search engines, worth a lot of money. Further, Gibson goes on to predict that in the when faced with so many languages in the same hyperspace then iconography would make a comeback. Iconography dominated when people could not read or write. A icon in the past was coat of arms or an Anvil sign advertising a blacksmith. I wanted my own icon.
So, given Gibson's predictions I wanted to create a unique name of which I'm the only one in the Universe and see if his prediction came true. A science fiction experiment! I also picked an icon, Trees. I'm a rather tall fellow and I thought Trees are emblematic of my physical tall nature as well as emblematic of an unmoving self-esteem nature.
Secure people such as myself are like trees. We are resigned as to who we are. Secure people are not into chasing approval or are interested in how people see us. Our approval position is wherever we happen to be at whatever moment. Trees. Trees are not social movers or social climbers. We just stand. If I ever had an inkling to change gender I would just do it. I feel very, very lucky that I was born to not have to struggle with my identity in the face of others and so I sincerely congratulate Caitlyn Jenner for a struggle that e.e. cummings aptly expressed for most of us in his quote above.
On the social side I changed my last name to Wonderful just for zappy fun! And it has been fun! People love to talk about it and it is such a good time. We are all better off if we say positive, zappy words like Wonderful. I considered changing my name to Kindness. Or Hug. Or Kissme. ha ha! Mybrid Kissme! Woot!
I am prepared to meet my Maker. Whether my Maker is prepared for the great ordeal of meeting me is another matter.
Where was I, oh yeah, I socially changed my name to Mybrid as I am literally your "My" when someone says the name "My-brid" and that means I will speak the language of thee. My name is your name. A my hybrid, a mybrid. And yet socially Mybrid is not a known name and may invoke a wee bit of curiosity.
I say wee bit of a curiosity because I speak people, not just languages. For example, I worked selling shoes and there is a homosexual sub-culture in shoes. I learned the gay culture lingo the best I could and fit in to the extent I got along. Never had a problem. When I run into people I try to immediately speak their specific "thee" language and accommodate their projections of what they expect. Why not? It is usually trivial, a courtesy to do and makes people comfortable. A regular chameleon, I am. My ego is usually not demanding, but yours probably is. If you project liberal, I can do liberal. If you project conservative, I can project conservative. Easy peasy. Your ego gets tender loving care around me. Respect. R E S P E C T. Sock it to me! I am always ready to meet you, but whether you are ready to meet me is another matter.
I say I project your expectations of identity because if ethics every get challenged then I stick to my guns. My morals are my morals. But lets face it, how often during the day do serious questions of ethics ever really come into play in our interpersonal interaction?
To summarize, Mybrid is a hybrid of two words, my hybrid. Mybrid is a mirror name where I will take your projection of what you think I should be and reflect that back. I speak people. But lurking behind that mirror is the fact that Mybrid is a totally engineered name, something odd. Mybrid is a name designed not to identify me, but to identify what you identify of me. That's weird. And yet the uniqueness of the name is an open invitation for you to discover who I am? Some people either have the time or are curious enough to make the enquiry as to my name. Then the conversation can become not so casual and not so boring, with me trying to speak you, you trying to speak me and the conversation becomes a dance of two. I do feedback loops in infinite regress. ha! Let me stand next to your fire! Zap it to me!
Which is better: a good eye, a good spouse, a good neighbor or the understanding of consequences? It is none of these things, but rather a being a warm and gentle person who understands the price of individual dignity and the worth of human fellowship; this is best.
--Frank Herbert, The God Makers
Mybrid Trees Wonderful means a warm and gentle person who understands the price of individual dignity and the worth of human fellowship.
Scale your empathy, scale the world!
Find your tribe!
Be sexy people!
The future is coming!
Innovate at a rapid pace!
Slow speed ahead!
Well come! and well met!